Jealousy gets a bad rap. Ugly Emotions Series: Jealousy Jealousy gets a bad rap. It's one of those emotions that most people seem to agree is “bad” or “ugly.” If you're jealous, you're probably insecure, controlling, immature… There must be something “wrong” in your relationship. To be fair, sometimes jealousy does show up when something genuinely isn't working. But we have a tendency to skip over the far more helpful question: what is my jealousy trying to tell me? To start